People who are in this position have very predictable challenges and concerns. If you have a conversation with a new-to-Poly couple about what they are looking for and start asking some probing questions, many answers come out that are pretty consistent. Making a Triad, isn’t that what Poly is? Isn’t that the point? What the hell is wrong with that? Why did all of these people have such a major stick up their butt? That means that “Unicorn Hunters” are a couple who are looking for that person to join their Dyad, to make a Triad.Ī Triad is a Poly relationship where three people are all in relationship with each other, as opposed to a “V”, where two of the people aren’t connected with each other directly. A “Unicorn” is that rare, mythical figure that many couples look for, a polyamorous, bisexual woman (Yay! That sounds great!), someone who might want to date both you and your partner. Not knowing what they meant, you asked your good friend Google what a “Unicorn Hunter” was, and you figured that out. Wait, I thought these people were Poly?! Aren’t they supposed to be open and accepting? What’s the deal? One thing that many of them said was that you are a “Unicorn Hunter”. They told you that you were doing it wrong, that you are bad for wanting to find someone, and that you should go read a book.
For some reason, a ton of people seemed upset at your post and started replying with a bunch of hostile, snarky comments that didn’t describe you at all. You posted that you and your partner are ready to open up your relationship and find a special person to add to it. So, you just posted on this really cool Poly forum that your friend told you about. So, somebody called you a Unicorn Hunter?Įdited essay by David Noble.